Idols by Pete Gall.

"Idols are good for two things: making us feel important and making us feel loved. Importance and love are good things, but you know they've become idols when the evidence of importance or adoration is something that you try to control yourself. My job makes me feel important, and I work hard to prove how important it makes me. Ask my cab driver, or the friends and family who get to hear me drop names or brag in cocky, matter-of-fact tones. And when I feel important I feel as though it is right for others to love me. And when I feel I understand what makes people love me, then I feel a control over that love. "

From Pete Gall's book My Beautiful Idol